My Infertility Journey

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What We Believe

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.   My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, Your eyes saw my unformed body.  All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.  Psalm 139:13-16

Life begins at conception, so we feel that these embryos must be given a chance. We understand that many of these embryos will not survive the thawing process, and others will die during the growth period outside of the uterus; however, transferring the surviving embryos into the uterus is the only way to allow them to continue to grow and develop into babies, thus saving their lives.  God created each embryo when egg and sperm united, and He has a plan for each one – either in Heaven or on earth.

When we first were introduced to the concept of embryo adoption, we did not understand the problem caused by a surplus of frozen embryos or the blessing that could be obtained by saving these lives. We believe that God “closed my womb” while we were trying to conceive naturally because embryo adoption was His plan for us all along.  If we had achieved a natural pregnancy, we might never have been open to becoming vehicles God could used to save these lives.  Honestly, we would now not choose to have our own genetic child over the precious adopted child that God gave us! 

We believe that embryo donation and adoption is the best option for these frozen embryos. It is the only option that attempts to sustain their lives. The added blessing is that this option allows other infertile couples the opportunity to experience pregnancy and childbirth.

At the same time, we also understand that donating one’s embryos (unborn children) is a very difficult decision for the donating couple to make. Considering donating embryos to another couple or organization is surely a painful and difficult process.  Not only is the couple relinquishing their chance at having more children, they are putting their unborn children into the care of another. I cannot imagine how difficult that decision is and will be eternally grateful for the anonymous couple that did make this decision that resulted in the birth of our son.

As the recipient of donated embryos, we believe it is our duty and responsibility to inform our child, and any other children that are born to us as a result of this process, about their origins, as well as embryo adoption.  When we went through this process a second time, it opened the door for us to explain to our young son his origins as an embryo and how we were able to adopt him and give him life through this process.

We have gone through two embryo adoptions and subsequent transfers and are currently going through our third.  We only have one child, but we have given 17 embryos a chance in the process. We feel blessed to have been given the opportunity to save these little lives!  I am still barren, but have been able to experience pregnancy, childbirth, and all that goes with it thanks to the wonder of embryo adoption.